When we're dating, even if it's a first blind date or a few nervous dates in the getting to know you phase, it may be that food is on the agenda for the date. I thought I would first share some thoughts on food and dating and at the bottom I have gathered tips on food that can actually help increase sex drive, isn't that something! A clear parallel among articles I've read on the subject: junk food = junk sex!
How should we think when it comes to eating on a date? Will a takeaway pizza do, is homemade expected and if so, what should I cook? Maybe it's easier to just book a table at a restaurant? I just hope the service is good and the food is delicious and not too expensive...
When it comes to food on dates, there are a lot of stories out there. We all have different preferences and experiences. Eating at a nice restaurant on a first date could be a bit stiff if things don't go as smoothly as we had hoped. In some smaller towns, there might only be a hot dog stand over by the gas station and you might need a chef at the stove to pull off the food mission. Especially of the sexier kind.
I know a man, let's call him Jonas, who lives in the far north, where the tinder limit is set at several miles, even into the neighboring country where Tromsö as the first city can mean happiness on the dating front. This man is very interested in food and spends days fermenting pizza dough to perfection. He was served ready-made fish fingers and boiled potatoes on a date which was a dealbreaker for him, he couldn't date further because of this. If it had been homemade fish with breading, potatoes and a sauce, well then it could have been a success according to him. But as in this case now, when Monday meal no. 1 - fish fingers - was on the menu, it was a quick end to the relationship.
Superficial and a possible loss according to some, full understanding according to others. How do you feel?
I believe in keeping it simple on a first date, focusing on a dish that you yourself like to both cook and eat, giving more time to actually talk and get to know each other.
Is there any food that can be seen as sexy or at least more sexy than fish fingers? And are there foods that can actually increase lust?
There are certain ingredients and spices that are said to be able to "spice it up" even if it is not scientifically proven. Already in the Middle Ages, there are said to have been certain foods that were banned for nuns in some Catholic countries as they were considered to increase desire, some of these ingredients were lentils and beans that contain a lot of amino acids that are supposed to have a positive effect on lust.
According to sexologist Ylva Franzén, there is much to be gained from food to increase sexual desire and help the body. If you want to try it, it might be worth serving you and your lover:
Water-rich fruits and berries
Like melons, mango, pineapple, papaya, kiwi, peach, figs, grapefruit, strawberries, cherries, strawberries, raspberries, bananas, apples, oranges, grapes, passion fruit, figs, guava and physalis.
Vegetables
Crispy carrots, parsley leaves, parsnips, bean sprouts, celery.
The amino acids that increase desire
Arginine, which acts like viagra, is abundant in beef, buckwheat, bran, cereals, chocolate, lamb, nuts, soybeans, veal and chickpeas.
Histamine increases the ability to orgasm
Such as melons, mangoes, pineapples, papayas, kiwis, peaches, figs, grapefruits, strawberries, It is because in both female and male genitals there are special cells called mast cells. They produce histamine, one of the substances the body needs to achieve orgasm.
Eat parmesan cheese, tuna, pork chop, seaweed, chicken, turkey, bacon, cheddar cheese, peanuts, ham, roast beef, cottage cheese, liver, duck and lamb. (Franzén 2020)
Here's a dinner tip from me, composed with ingredients that can raise your appetite.
Starter: Figs and chevretoast with balsamic and arugula, don't skimp on the figs!
Main course: Spicy Daal made with lentils
Dessert: Fruit salad with grated dark chocolate and a scoop of vanilla ice cream.
Another tip that can work is to eat finger food such as seafood or other snacks, it can be an icebreaker as well as sexy, the rest is up to you!
Cecilia, CEO and co-founder of Aima Sense